In this age of teenage pregnancy, widespread drug addiction and the increasing spread of AIDS, it is difficult to pick the biggest problem facing teenagers today. It is even harder to find solutions. Yet a common denominator in most teenage problems is a lack of self respect and self discipline, along with an absence of morals and principles. We as teenagers must learn to care about ourselves and feel the responsibilities of being a part of the community before many of our teenage problems can be eradicated.
In high schools, teenagers learn facts and figures, often cramming for exams. It is rare for a teenager to dig down deep to find out who they really are. It is important that teenagers honestly evaluate themselves, finding their likes and dislikes, making note of their assets and also weaknesses. Self-respect is made easier when one really knows who one is. Once we have self-respect, respecting others is a natural transition.
Another major problem facing teenagers today is a lack of self-discipline. Whether it is through religion, athletics, or some other avenue, teens must realize that every basic desire cannot be gratified immediately. Part of being human is having the capacity to think into the future and reject basic drives because of future consequences. If a teen is accustomed to sacrificing wants for the sake of a team, or because religion demands it, it will be easier to discipline oneself in a potentially hazardous situation. That one more drink, cigarette, or hour of late night fun will be much easier to pass up if we have made a habit of controlling ourselves.
While self-respect and self-control are two important qualities, perhaps it is most important to look outside oneself to contemplate one's role. Everyone has the capacity to better the world, and we all have a stake in this. Whether through a kind word or involvement in community, we as teens should use our creativity and high energy to make a positive impact. While often stressed for time, we must not neglect our responsibility. It is our ability to show concern and compassion that distinguishes us as human.
Teenagers face many problems, and lack of self-respect and self-discipline, and sense of community are at the heart of many of them. Teenagers must be helped and help themselves to acquire these character traits that will help to end many teenage problems in the world today. ?
This piece has been published in Teen Ink’s monthly print magazine.
Last updated on February 8th, 2018 at 04:21 pm
Life is like a roller-coaster; it has many ups and downs, but it’s your choice to either scream or enjoy the ride. Isn’t it?
It constantly keeps throwing challenges at you, as a child, teenage, parents or adults no matter what phase of the life cycle you are in. You indeed have lot many problems to deal with. Similarly teenagers problems are something you just cannot ignore. Honestly, no one has ever pretended that parenting is easy especially when your kids are in their teens and their teen problems. You can stay positive with the belief that your teenager will never answer you back, throw tantrums, stay out too late or have a pierced and tattooed body.
Teenage phase is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively. Teens face countless teen problems and challenges. They deal with lot of emotional highs and lows. One minute they might feel great, and the next moment, they are depressed. These kinds of mood swings are common teenage problems. Teenage is the time where parents need to lay a strong foundation in their kid’s life. This of course needs to be done patiently and skillfully. With a relatively civilized approach, you can troubleshoot the following teenage behavior problems in the right direction.
Teenage Problems and Solutions
1. Depression – Down Way of Life
Depression is the most common mental health problem faced by teenagers which may sometimes lead to suicide. Teenagers can’t differentiate sadness and depression. Many factors can lead to depression and the reaction of each teen is different to such things.
Symptoms of major depression in teenagers
- Teenage sleep problems
- Behavioral changes
- Careless about physical safety
- Disturbed mental health
- Frequent health issues like headache
- Preoccupation with death and suicide
- Giving warning hints such as “I won’t be a problem for you much longer”
- Prolonged sad or angry mood
- Suddenly clearing out belongings and getting them in order
- Becoming suddenly cheerful without reason after being depressed
- Teenage pregnancy problems
These are the most teenage health problems symptoms you can observe in your child’s behavior. So, being a parent, what should you do? Well, find a good place to talk. Make your child comfortable with the surroundings and talk to him/her calmly and patiently. Try to identify your child’s problem and see what you can do to help him/her out.
2. Drinking, Smoking and Drugs
Teenagers find drinking alcohol, having drugs, smoking hookah or cigars very fashionable and trendy. It makes them feel very cool and proud and be part of the grown ups crowd. They suddenly feel that rush in them, all energized, wanting to explore anything and everything.
To deal with this problem effectively, first and foremost, try to find out the reason why your teen is drinking alcohol or getting into smoking and drugs. If parents consume alcohol on regular basis, then teen is more likely to start drinking at an early age. You must have heard an old famous quote which goes on like “Monkey See- Monkey Do”
Parents need to feel free to talk to their teens about certain subjects like dating, sex, drugs, and alcohol. It is this inability to discuss the good and bad points that drives them to take wrong steps out of curiosity.
Someone drinks with curiosity and some to get out of feeling of hell! Alcohol acts as a depressant and helps them to escape their troubled teen lives. When teens see their peers drinking or smoking, they too indulge in without thinking right or wrong. Peer pressure is probably the toughest challenge teens have to deal with. And the least a teenager would want is to be left out of his/her group of friends. When it comes to drugs, the most important thing as parents you can do is express plenty of love to your juniors to get them rid of this deadly addiction.
3. Cyber Space Addiction
It’s no secret that many teens are big fans of cyber space. They are always glued to their computers, laptops or cell phones. Internet is very useful, it makes things very easy but like everything has its pros and cons, so does internet.
You are surely known with the fact how one can become trapped and hooked to internet with all the attractive things its got to offer. So, one must be careful while using internet day and night and be rational. Parents must monitor what their children are doing with the smart devices and to what extent are they being exposed to the world outside. You must make sure to spend good amount of time your children to build that bond of love and trust so that they can freely communicate their thoughts, feelings and problems with you.
4.Your Teen Dislikes You
Children in their teens tend to reject their parents. They do not like communicating often or confiding in them. They are more comfortable in their friend’s company. It is common with every teenager.
You need to understand this is a temporary phase and children too know they still need their parents no matter how reluctantly they act and is it common to have teenagers problems with parents.
5. Staying Out Too Late
It takes a toll on parents when their teenage kids stay out too late in the night. You surely must have set good limits for your children but then why do they break them again and again?
In this case, your child does not feel happy to stay at home. You must try to talk to your child calmly and find out what is the reason that is keeping him/her so late. Teenage girl problems are more common as they observe changes in their body suddenly. You must ensure to set proper rules for them. If they still continue to ignore you, it is time to set the consequences and ensure that they follow the said rules. for eg.. you can try like “no going out in evenings this whole week”, “no hanging out with friends for a week, if proper timing is not followed”
Along with the above, teenage attitude problems also include generation gap, parental exception, career judgement, socialization, peer pressure and sexual pressure. All these are likely to make them depressed and stressed. One and only best solution for these problems is your unconditional love and care. Be their best friend and guide them without being demanding. Trying to control them harshly or imposing things will only make situations worse for you as well as them.
How have you taken care of your child’s common teenage problems? Share with us in the comments below.
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